TIMSON, SUSAN C.
Of Deptford, NJ and formerly of Westville died on October 6, 2007 at Virtua Hospital Mt. Holly, NJ age 55.
She was born in Freeport, IL and was a nurse at JFK Hospital Washington Twp.
Survived by her son David Bolt of Collingswood, NJ; a daughter Sharon Bolt of Deptford; a brother Donald of Sun City, AZ; and a grandson Joe.
Relatives and friends are invited to attend her Mass of Christian Burial on Wednesday Eve., 7:00PM at the St. Patrick\’s RC Church, Cooper St., Woodbury, NJ. Her memorial service will be Thursday 11:00AM at the Gloucester County Community Church, 359 Chapel Heights Rd., Washington Twp., NJ. Interment will be on Friday at Eglington Cemetery, Clarksboro, NJ. Funeral arr: by the ELLIS-STIEFEL FUNERAL HOME, Westville, NJ. The family request donations be sent in her memory to The Samaritan Hospice 5 Eves Dr., Suite 300, Marlton, NJ 08053.

 

By Hank F. Miller Jr.

 

 

Whenever the work and weariness of life fills my house with gloom, the sure way to drive away the clouds and ring in the laughter is this:

 

All I need do is to speak politely to my wife. In Japanese, I mean. For the same reason, she finds having her husband address her in formal speech hilarious. If, for example, I ask her if she knows where I left my wallet, odds are she will ignore me. But if I use the word zonjiri for \”know\” and add the polite prefix of go, resulting in gozonjimasu ka, she will pound the tatami in convulsions.

I especially enjoy joking and bringing harmony into our lives, there is never a dull moment around the Miller household.

 

Neither way do I learn about my wallet.

The immediate point, however, is that Japanese couples are not supposed to speak to each other in such a formal manner, but we\’re not a Japanese couple. Not unless, that is, they actually intend to make each other split.

 

The bigger point is that I don\’t get the joke. To me, one of the finer mysteries of life in Japan is the proper use of polite speech, teneigo or-worse-its more horrific cousin, keigo. Let\’s make this simple and wrap these two together in a single package-the word keigo.

Of course, Japanese will tell you keigo is a mystery to them as well. Especially younger Japanese, who-learning to ride a bike-have to scrape their knees a few times before they can pedal away on just the right verb choices. As for me, my knees are so badly scarred, I am afraid to get anywhere near the keigo bicycle.

 

If you acquire your language skills in a classroom with a patient instructor for about two years-or one that was not so tolerant but carried a whip-you might have a handle on polite speech.

 

As for my Japanese I learned it here and there due to the necessity of having to speak to survive and get along with my colleagues. Since I was the only English speaking foreigner here and in charge of the project. I was posted here by the French off shore oil Construction Company that I was employed by.

 

I was posted at Nippon Steel\’s fabrication yard located at Wakamatsu, City near where I live now. I had to survive to be able to communicate my daily orders from our engineering department main office in Singapore.

 

\”The rules here are simple,\” says my wife Keiko, who is an English teacher at one of the local high schools.

She says \”you only use \’o\’ or\’go\’before nouns, unless you use them before verbs.

 

Anyway with me learning Japanese from my wife, though she is extremely patient in every form perhaps she needs a whip.

Living and working in a foreign country sometimes isn\’t easy as one may think it is.

 

There is the language, the culture and the food, thus one gets tired of using sign language to make known just what one wants.

Not to mention being able to travel around freely to do what one want to do. Not all the Japanese speak English. One really need to have a sense of humor at times to be able to get along, it can be very frustrating to say the least.

But at this time in my life I can look back on life here and reflect on all the good and bad as well as the memorable times, such as all the achievements as well as the accomplishments, my family have achieved together.

 

Warm Regards from Kitakyushu City, Japan,

Enjoy the nice fall weather.

 

Hank & Keiko Miller & Family

Note: Hank was born and raised in Gloucester City, NJ after he was discharged from the service he settle in Japan.

MATERA, ELSIE E.

(nee Jamison) age 72. Passed away October 7, 2007 at Virtua Hospital, Mt. Holly, surrounded by the love of her family by her side. Elsie was born April 5, 1935, in Philadelphia and graduated from West Catholic Girls High School in 1953. She was honored as May Queen 2 years in a row. Elsie was a longtime resident of Riverton and moved to Delanco in 1988. She worked for Bell Telephone for a short time, then the Penna. Railroad where she met Joseph Matera. They married November 1956. In 1971 they opened Matera Real Estate in Riverton.
Elsie raised her 4 children in the back of the home and ran the ofice from the front; the last of the \’Mom and Pop\’ offices. Together Elsie and Joe, owned and operated the office until December 2006. Elsie was a loving, devoted wife, mom, sister, grandmom, and friend.
She thoroughly enjoyed life and made her home and yard beautiful. She loved gardening, sewing, stamp collecting; her creative touch permeated everything. She loved her dear friends and her \’Famous Girls Club.\’ She was a member of the Cinnaminson Community Chorus; she loved the camaraderie and the music. She was a member of the Delanco Women\’s Civic Club, and played an active role in their Annual Garden Tea and Community Service. She spent many summers in Ocean City, running her apartment building and gathering with family and friends.
Elsie is the beloved wife for over 50 years of Joseph, Beloved mother of Joseph (Laura) of Marmora, Robert (Lisa) of Beesley\’s Point, Susan Matera and Lisa (George) Harder both of Delanco. She will be greatly missed by her grandchildren, Claire, Tommy, Kate, Michael, Louise and Adrian. She is also survived by her sister Helen McHugh of Medford and her brother Bill Jamison of Villas and Bob Jamison of Pottstown, PA, and many nieces and nephews.
Relatives and friends are invited to visit Wednesday from 7 to 9PM and Thursday from 9:00AM to 10:45AM and to attend the Liturgy of Christian Burial Thursday 11:00AM at Sacred Heart Church, 4th Street and Linden Avenue Riverton, NJ 08077. Interment Lakeview Memorial Park, Cinnaminson, NJ. In lieu of flowers please make remembrances in Elsie\’s name toeither, the Leukemia Society 216 Haddon Ave. Westmont, NJ 08108 or Sacred Heart Church, Arrangements byWEBER FUNERAL HOME (856)829-2700

TABINSKI, MARYROSE A.
(Nee Stewart), of Woodlynne, on October 6, 2007, age 64 years.
Beloved wife of the late Robert E. Stabinski; devoted mother of Melissa A. Stabinski & Christina M. Stabinski of Woodlynne; sister of Elizabeth A. Mitchell of Upper Darby, PA and the late Edward L. & John A. Stewart; sister-in-law of Noreen Stewart of New London, PA & Nancy A. Stewart of Broomall, PA.
A member of the West Catholic High School Class of \’61. MaryRose was an operator, then a supervisor at Bell Telephone, Phila. Mrs. Stabinski moved to Woodlynne in 1964 where she was Past President of the PTA & the School Board and a member of the Town Watch, Neighborhood Preservation Alliance, B.A.B.E.S. (Anti-Drug) School Program and the Camden County Board of Elections. In the 1990\’s MaryRose returned to work & was Top Salesperson for Sarah Coventry Home Presentations. In 2000 Mrs. Stabinski began work at Collingswood Manor.
Viewing Wednesday 7-9 PM in BLAKE -DOYLE FUNERAL HOME, 226 Collings Ave., Collingswood. Funeral Thursday 8:30 AM from the Funeral Home. Funeral Mass 10 AM in Immaculate Heart of Mary RC Church, Woodlynne. Interment in New St. Mary\’s Cemetery, Bellmawr.
The Family suggests donations in MaryRose\’s memory to United Methodist Homes of NJ, Fellowship Fund, 3311 Route 33, Neptune, NJ 07753.

Hey Bill ,

more pet tips

Dog Quote: My advice to any diplomat who wants to have good press is to have two or three kids and a dog.
….Carl Rowan

Photo: Erica, hanging out

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So you have a problem with a whining dog?

It is not unusual for people to have problems,rticularly with puppies whining all day long.
Most puppies will outgrow this behavior.

They generally whine for two reasons. For attention and when they are anxious.

More Information:
http://AboutDogs.info/recommends/dogtraining.html

If they want attention, they will continue to whine if that attention attracts a reward.

It is better just to give your dog attention in the form of eye contact rather than a reward to
stop it from whining, as a reward will only encourage it to whine all the more.

Often the best solution is to ignore the dog completely until the whining stops no matter how long it might take.

When the dog realizes that it is not getting the reward it expects from whining it will tend to stop.

An alternative method is to blow a whistle when your dog is whining and when it stops you stop. Often this method works faster than simply ignoring it.

Another reason why dogs whine is because they are anxious. Particularly when nobody is around and they have separation anxiety. This can be more difficult, if you are unable to
find somebody to mind the dog when you\’re away.

Leaving your dog with suitable toys to play with, fresh food and water can assist, and also getting it used to you being away by starting off with shorter periods apart as discussed in a previous newsletter.

Another method to stop your dog from whining is to buy a clicker from a pet store and ignore the whining until it stops. Once the dog stops whining, wait for a few seconds and then click the clicker, and then reward it in some manner.

The dog will soon learn that the reward comes from its silence.

More Information:
http://AboutDogs.info/recommends/dogtraining.html

Thanks,

Allan
http://AboutDogs.info

MAY
Mary Elizabeth
On October 6, 2007, of Washington Twp. Age 23. Beloved daughter of Joseph E. and Maureen P. (nee Traxler). Dear sister of Christopher J. and Joseph N. May. Loving grandaughter of Margaret Bucher, Harold and Margaret Traxler, and the late Joseph N. May. Also survived by aunts, uncles and cousins.

Relatives and friends are invited to attend her viewing Sunday eve 6:00 – 9:00pm and Monday 9:00 – 10:00am at the EGIZI FUNERAL HOME, 119 Ganttown Rd., Washington Twp. Mass of Christian Burial 11:00am at St. John Vianney RC Church, Blackwood Terrace. Interment St. Joseph’s Cemetery, Chews Landing.

\’A Life Well Lived Is Worth Remembering.\’

Viewing	Egizi Funeral Home (856) 227-9500	10/14/2007 6:00pm-9:00pm 10/15/2007 9:00am-10:00am	• Map • Directions
Mass of Christian Burial	St. John Vianney (856) 227-2623	10/15/2007 11:00am

Tom Gurick, of Gloucester City with his radio buddies from 98.1 WOGL:
Valery Knight & Frank Lewis from the morning show at last week\’s Phillies game 

photo by Valery\’s husband, Frank

Women’s College Soccer

DOVER, Del.–Whether you call it sudden death, sudden victory or Golden Goal, offensive players love it and defensive players don’t. Rider defender Lauren Mahar wanted it over quick. \”It was going to be a long 10 or 20 minutes so I took the free kick and I just put it upper 90 (top corner of net).\”

Junior Lauren Mahar (Barnegat, N.J./Colonia) scored her first goal of the season just 25 seconds into overtime to give Rider a victory at Delaware State Tuesday night. Mahar took a free kick from 40 yards out to win the game on the golden goal. \”When we got the free kick we discussed a play,\” Mahar said, \”and I said ‘no, I think I’m just going to go for it’ and it went in.\”

A mid-fielder, Mahar moved to the back position three games ago, replacing her injured twin sister Erin, who is out with a broken wrist. Erin scored her first collegiate goal earlier this year. \”Erin got her first one this year and I felt I had to get one to do her proud,\” Lauren said. It was the second career goal for Lauren.

\”The first half we were attacking a lot, really going at them, but we were a bit unlucky in that nothing was going in,\” Mahar said.

\”It wasn’t one of our more stellar performances but I’m very pleased that we came out with urgency in overtime,\” said head coach Kevin Long.

Junior Kayla Devlin (Clifton, N.J./Clifton) scored on a corner kick from freshman Lauren Musumeci (Annandale, N.J./North Hunterdon) in the 10th minute of play to give Rider (5-4-3) a 1-0 lead.

\”Kayla scored early and we thought things were going to go our way,\” Long said. \”She had an injury (leg) early in the season and I think it shows in her play that she is getting healthy. Hopefully it continues and we’ll see her get more goals. We’d love to see her find the net more often.\”

It was Devlin’s fifth career goal, and the team-high 13th point for Musumeci.

Rider freshman goalkeeper Alex Post (Chalfont, Pa./Central Bucks West) made four saves and made Devlin’s goal hold up until Delaware State (2-7-1) scored in the 85th minute to send the game into overtime. \”Alex played well,\” Long said. \”I don’t blame her on their goal. Anytime it is one on one in the back the offensive player has the advantage.\”

\”It doesn’t matter what team you play, if you make a mistake they are going to capitalize,\” Mahar said. \”We found that out the hard way today. I’m just glad we came out hard after that.\”

Rider out-shot Delaware State 16-9. \”Throughout the game we had a lot of chances,\” Long said. \”We dominated play however they had some great forwards who were crafty and really fast and causing problems throughout the game, and they got in on us to tie the score late. They were getting in more and more as the game went on and finally scored.\”

Rider defeated Delaware State 3-0 at Rider last season in the only other meeting between these two teams. \”They are a much improved team,\” Long said. \”I really take my hat off to them.\”

The contest was the final non-conference game of the regular season. Rider went 4-3-3 in non-conference games this year. \”I think that’s great,\” Long said. \”We had a tough out of conference schedule and the team responded very well. I’m very pleased with that. The team should be very proud of that. Now we want a winning record in the conference.\”

Rider travels to Loyola for a Metro Atlantic Athletic Conference game Saturday. The Rider defenders won’t mind if it goes overtime, as long as the result is the same.

-RU-

By Stephanie Greco

NEWS Correspondent

A sizeable crowd of Gloucester City firefighters and their families waited patiently for the start of Thursday night\’s City Council meeting, and it was not just to honor four retired firefighters who passed away in recent weeks.

At the start of the meeting, Mayor William James called for a moment of silence to remember the four men, Frank Williams, Sam Monroe, Richard Hubbs, and Marty Coyle.

But, it was not until the public was invited to comment that the main reason for the firefighters\’ attendance came forth.

At issue was Council\’s concern about the \”spiraling\” cost of overtime with-in the City Fire Department, which reached a year-long high of more than $50,000 in the month of August alone, Councilman Nick Marchese said.

In contrast, the firefighters and family members pointed out the inherent dangers of having a \”manpower shortage\” in fighting fires safely.

Steve Skipton, who has lived in Gloucester City all his life, asked Mayor James for a clarification of \”how many firefighters would be on duty\” if his house were on fire.

Another resident praised the fire department for their quick action when power lines came down on her property, and was worried that Council action in the near future would reduce the number of firefighters available for duty.

Linda Ryan spoke for all those in attendance when she asked, \”Why would firefighters want to go into a burning building if they know they won\’t have a job the next day?\”

Her son, Marine Marc Ryan, who was killed in Iraq in 2004, was recently honored in a tribute at a Gloucester City High football game when his jersey number was retired.

She also has a firefighter son and son-in-law, and stated, \”I don\’t want to bury any more sons.\”

She then called for both sides to meet together and negotiate in good faith for a successful resolution of the current impasse.

To reassure the residents, Mayor James, who was himself a long-time member of the Gloucester City Police Department, praised the firefighters for their willingness \”to put their lives on the line\” and considered \”public safety to be (City Council\’s) natural priority.\”

The fact remained, however, that the high cost of overtime \”could not continue to come out of the department\’s operating budget,\” Marchese said.

He added regretfully that there has to be a \”price tag on everything,\” causing an agitated young fire fighter to call out, \”are you putting a price tag on my life?!\”

After the firefighter was escorted from the meeting, there was no further disturbance. Both Council and concerned residents hoped there would be substantial give and take in upcoming meetings between Council and the firefighters.

The proposed erection of billboards along City highways was brought up as a cause for concern by Planning Board Member Jess Torres.

Although Marchese indicated to this reporter that the billboards would bring in considerable revenue, Mr. Torres expressed his opposition to the \”skyline blight\” that would result from the erection of \”900 square foot billboards\” and described how they would negatively impact Gloucester City as a whole.

In other Council action, $40,000 was allocated to treat sewer water overflow for pathogenic material.

Other news included the 6^th Annual Heroes to Hero Memorial Scholarship 5-K Run and 5-K Walk, which starts at 9 a.m. from the Mt. Ephraim Fire Department and finishes at the Gloucester City Fire Department, planned for Saturday, October 13.

It was also announced that a Senior Health Fair for residents to receive shots against flu and pneumonia would be Thursday, October 18, from 9 a.m. until noon at the firehouse.

After the meeting, Councilman Marchese praised Gloucester City Library for the excellent programs that enticed over 9,000 patrons into the facility during the month of August alone.

On a personal note, the Councilman indicated that \”now that (he) has a senior student,\” he was looking forward to Senior Parents\’ Day on Saturday, October 13, when all of the fall sports teams at Gloucester City High would be celebrated.

The next meeting of City Council is Thursday, October 25, at 8 p.m. in City Hall, 313 Monmouth St.

ALL THINGS FIRE

All things Gloucester City

 

 

By Lois Staas

NEWS Correspondent

Bellmawr School Superintendent Annette Castiglione reported the results of the 2006-07 Community Survey during last week\’s School Board meeting.

The survey had been sent to every home in the district in late spring of 2007, and 103 families responded from Bellmawr Park, 94 from Ethel M. Burke, and 45 from Bell Oaks.

The overall satisfaction rate of parents is extremely high, as 98 percent of the respondents from all three schools feel the district is meeting their child\’s academic needs.

While some parents at the meeting felt that homework was extensive, most were content with the amount of homework – and feel their child is being taught at the appropriate level.

The majority of the respondents feel welcome in the schools; they also feel their children are welcome and that they are able to discuss their problems with staff members.

While the discipline policy is meeting the parents\’ expectations and children\’s needs, some asked what the district was doing to curb bullying.

The answer was that the district has a zero tolerance policy toward bullying.

They have a Character Education Program, present assemblies, conduct peer mediation and conflict resolution programs, address these issues through trained counselors, and work with the Renaissance program at the Bell Oaks School.

In another area of the report, nutrition in the schools is a major concern.

Fresh fruits and salads are served in the cafeteria. Foods offered are low in trans fats and sugar and abide by the Governor\’s nutrition policies.

Also, the physical education staff is working on an update to the curriculum.

In agreement with parents in attendance, those surveyed felt that there was too much testing.

However, every child must pass the state mandated tests and the schools must make adequate yearly progress (AYP) in math and language arts literacy.

Some parent comments included the following:

\”I think Bellmawr Schools do a great job with the students.\”

\”I feel my child is receiving an excellent education in Bellmawr Park School.\”

\”Thank you for doing a wonderful job.\”

\”I commend the school for introducing computers at an early age!\”

\”Everyone I have come in contact with in the school and the child study team has been fantastic!\”

In committee reports, Bet-ty Sheppard said, \”There was an emergency management meeting, and the Fire Department said there were no injuries and no other buildings were damaged in the Italia restaurant fire\” recently.

Vice President Jody Mangus said, \”We would like to see higher numbers next year in our summer reading program.\”

Principal Anthony Fari-nelli of Bell Oaks said, \”Back to School night was a great turnout of parents. I would also like to thank the Parent Teacher Organization for everything they put on for the kids.\”

Upcoming events are:

The eighth grade Corby Pizza Fundraiser October 10; Anti-violence week beginning October 14; the Halloween Dance October 26; and the results of the Hero Essay—the prize is Eagles tickets.

Bellmawr Park Principal Elizabeth A. Calabria reported about the events in her school and the Ethel M. Burke School.

Both schools had a very smooth opening.

On September 11, the el-ementary school celebrated Patriot Day by remembering the victims of 9-11.

Students wore red, white and blue, and teachers conducted many patriotic lessons in their classrooms.

Mrs. Kilgus received a warm thank you for updating the elementary school websites.

Parent Stacey Leonard said she did not receive a response to her emails to two of her child\’s teachers.

Castiglione said the issue would be addressed.

The student handbook was reviewed in assemblies, and students were in-troduced to the new agenda book. Children were encouraged to go over the important information in the handbook with their parents. Highlighted topics were the discipline policy, no tolerance for bullying, and the dress code.

The elementary buildings are piloting three new language arts literacy series: MacMillan, McGraw-Hill, and Rigby Publishers.

As always the district is revising and updating curricula to ensure that it is aligned to the NJ Core Curriculum Standards, is creating student schedules that focus on the standards, is placing staff to address curricular issues and data analysis, and is ensuring that courses taught are rigorous and challenging.

Castiglione said, \”We had a wonderful back to school opening without incident. I spoke with students and staff that day. It was a pleasure to open school when everyone was hap-py.\”